tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26943684284753574712023-11-16T03:51:00.070-08:00riding backwards on a train / surviving the teen yearsMother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-46283123860964761332011-12-23T16:12:00.000-08:002011-12-23T16:12:59.095-08:002 days, just 2 daysThe insanity in the house has hit an all time high - complete with tears, melt downs and hysteria ... and that's just me!<br />
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The big news is that 9 is now 10 - double digits! Though 10 scoffs at the age because secretly he's been double digits for about 5 years now, I have just failed to acknowledge it. We celebrated with a night out on the town, renting a room at the Sheraton Hotel on Queen Street with their indoor/outdoor pool - sadly the pool was under construction but fortunately we had a big white dented non-working fridge in our room! That and two bottles of water to make up for the inconvenience was totally worth it! Bit of a disappointment but we also had a family party on Sunday and asked for everyone to donate money towards an iPod to replace the one stolen by our no-longer part-time foster son.<br />
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What happened to 15b? Sadly his life spiraled out of control and CCAS moved him to Pickering where he is only a 10 minute bus ride from his mom and far enough away from us that we won't see him. But I suppose it's probably for the best if he's beginning to STEAL from us. I was hurt though, that CCAS would make this decision considering how involved we were in his life, our feelings for him, and how far in the fostering process we were, to up and move him without telling us - and that they continue to adhere to the philosophy that the mother he buys pot for is a more important relationship to maintain.<br />
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Oh well.<br />
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So back to me - I have hit the wall. I am going to drink wine all night, not think about presents and everything that I still need to do before Christmas, and instead watch <i>It's a Wonderful Life</i> so that I can get weepy and feel only love for my family.<br />
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Enjoy your night!Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-89481944031720490752011-12-10T15:52:00.000-08:002011-12-10T15:52:03.514-08:00While on hold for a cab9: Why that's horrible! That's so racist! Listen to what they just said: <i>please continue holding and an Asian will take your call shortly</i><br />
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Me: Agent, an Agent will take your call.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-1064337307236855982011-11-30T13:46:00.000-08:002011-11-30T13:46:19.782-08:00Math and irritationThere is a direct correlation between number of days counting down to 9's birthday and his absolute annoying behaviour - with each day closer, he doubles in irritation. And I don't know why I always forget about this, year after year. Probably self preservation.<br />
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He is trying to explain why it only makes good sense we give him his presents now, rather than wait until his actual birthday. In fact, it's a win-win situation ... for him. He gets presents now, we throw him a party for his birthday, he gets presents then. All good.<br />
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Except for the wrench I threw into his thinking, the wrench known as <i>No Way.</i><br />
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This wrench, which totally messed up his well thought out plan, had him yelling, crying, tantruming and threatening to run away.<br />
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This then led to me yelling, not crying, swearing and threatening to send him away.<br />
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I said "I must be the worst parent ever because how else did I produce such a spoiled child and perhaps we should return the gifts because of your behaviour and also, this whole getting stuff throughout the year rather than waiting for a special occasion? OVER. DONE."<br />
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There was a really long happy moment after that comment, I tell you. <br />
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The only parent worse than me in 9's mind is his father. He also tried his failed logic on Husband, and I'm not exactly sure what was said, but 9 stormed out of the garage muttering DAMN YOU.<br />
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The only upside is that after 9's birthday, we count down to Christmas so we can begin this dance all over again.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-23203177819899605412011-11-24T12:47:00.000-08:002011-11-24T12:47:10.343-08:00Obviously I thrive on stressThe past couple of months have been insanely busy for me ... but like any good protestant, I drink and carry on. I mean I keep calm and carry on.<br />
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One of my annual projects is creating a painting for the company I work for which will first be used as our Canadian Christmas card and then donated to the United Way for auction.<br />
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So this year, because of my insane schedule ... I cheated.<br />
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I borrowed a painting I gave my brother a few years ago and photographed it for the card and then created this one for the auction:<br />
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And by created I mean finding a painting in the basement and reworking it. Technically new, kind of recycled. Very green. And still very wet. Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-5654319609344463092011-11-23T16:46:00.000-08:002011-11-23T16:46:06.951-08:00The ChangeAnd for once I'm not talking about the changing brain of my teenage son, I'm talking about my change.<br />
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While I was at an office function on Friday, conversation with friends inevitably turned to menopause and peri-menopause and our personal experiences. My friend said she's been feeling sad and have I been? I said no, not really - I haven't notice mood changes...but then thought yes I have! And it is sadness, and it's like it's blowing into me, filling me up. And it's different from the hormonal mood swings brought on by PMS because I don't feel the hormonal anxiety encouraging certain moods. Just this weight of sadness.<br />
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And I realized it's one of the major reasons I haven't been working with on this blog or feeling particularly creative (a huge light bulb moment for me). <br />
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She said her friend is being hit really hard and she wants to help but doesn't know how so spoke to her doctor and had a therapist recommended.<br />
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Now having been ravaged by the black dogs of depression in my teens and early 20s, I know, for me, this is different from that kind of dehabiliting sadness and I definitely don't need medication to help me through this time.<br />
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But I just wanted to put it out to you if you ever want to contribute your own personal story or ask me anything about my experience, please do!<br />
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Now on to a quick story about 9.<br />
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9 was hit in the head with a tennis ball yesterday (no NOT BY ME <span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>this time</i></span>) and decided by last night that it could have killed him and he is offended that I'm not taking him seriously. After all, it was very close to his temple. Getting hit in the temple means certain death. He feels that if he has even the slightest of headaches in the morning, he will need to stay home.<br />
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Being completely unsympathetic I had to tell him that he is going to school, even though he did bravely face death, and if I get even one call from the school I will tell them that there is no way he is being sent home and he is to return to his class. And I will give him only fruit for his birthday.<br />
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And, AND, I was hit in the face by a rock, just below my eye, when I was his age and my mother had my grandfather determine whether I needed a trip to the hospital and once he said NO, she went back to ignoring me. And I could have lost an eye! But that's just how it was in the 1970s and you grew up in a large family. You were ignored and so you sucked it up.<br />
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He's not happy with me.<br />
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Plus according to 9, he faced death, I would merely have been blinded in one eye - one would consider that only an inconvenience.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-6209730338717555912011-11-20T09:15:00.000-08:002011-11-20T09:15:57.768-08:00The holiday season count downIs it only in my house that the Santa Claus parade is viewed as punishment? Even with promises of hot chocolate with<strike> Baileys</strike>* marshmallows?<br />
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How did these children shoot from my loins and have no love for the magical spectacle of Christmas? The lights, the decorations, the parade, the windows at Queen St. Bay? They (and by they I also mean husband - oh right, that where they got the humbug gene) cringe at the thought of exposure.<br />
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Anyway, I need help. December 16 is also when 9 graduates to double digits and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Where he has inherited <i>my</i> defective gene is in his inability to make decisions for fear of making the wrong one. He can't decide on what he would like most because there might be something even better out there; something that 15 would want and therefore he should have first even if he has no interest in it! If he was to make the wrong decision and miss out on 15's mysterious object of desire - well, his world would end as he knows it and mine would involve sneaking off with the unsharable Baileys.<br />
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I'm not sure if anyone still reads my little blog since I so seldom write but I consider this the equivalent of putting a help note into a bottle and throwing it out into the big blue ocean in hopes that someone will find it and rescue me.<br />
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Check in tomorrow - I had an interesting conversation on Friday at a party regarding THE CHANGE and really want to write about it.<br />
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*I would <i>never</i> share my Baileys.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-747848037165533682011-10-03T09:57:00.000-07:002011-10-03T09:57:05.706-07:00The teenage brain according to National Geographic<a href="http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2011/10/teenage-brains/dobbs-text">http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2011/10/teenage-brains/dobbs-text</a>Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-5358470665022174352011-10-02T14:44:00.000-07:002011-10-02T14:44:47.928-07:00Homework15 had an essay to write, 750 words supporting the idea of lowering the legal drinking age.<br />
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His argument: you have to be 19 to drink yet 16 to acquire a drivers license, 18 to join the army and also to vote. There were a few holes in his argument and areas he didn't even want to consider investigating such as how does alcohol further impair judgment of teenagers who are already impaired? How does alcohol effect or damage the brain especially when it's still developing?<br />
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"I am not writing about that" 15 says.<br />
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His final argument? His piece de resistance written with great flourish?<br />
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The legal drinking age should be lowered because then there would be less teens getting in trouble and charged with under-age drinking.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-40106093148377984312011-09-22T19:26:00.001-07:002011-09-22T19:26:54.495-07:00I'm curiousIf I post pictures of my cat and my obnoxious chidren, can I have a new roof too? I know, rude. But I'm curious, can I?Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-54638682872764128512011-09-22T19:25:00.000-07:002011-09-22T19:25:18.873-07:00Are you freaking kidding me?After 2 days of harassment for a duplicate copy of a $70 xbox game this is my conversation with 9:<br />
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9: I want a duplicate copy of a $70 xbox game (or something like that)<br />
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Me: Are you freaking kidding? $70 would feed 2 people in our family for a week! So who should go without food? You and 15? Or me and your father?<br />
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9: Well I do have $5, that would feed someone for a day.<br />
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I have totally failed.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-49059421528552212882011-09-21T13:35:00.000-07:002011-09-21T13:35:58.132-07:00Time off for good behaviourI haven't written much the past few weeks because frankly I have been finding being a mother of only boys hard lately. <br />
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One of my hidden secrets is that I'm actually a mother to 2.5 boys, the .5 boy will be named 15 until 14 turns 15 next Monday (okay 14 is now 15 because I've taken so much time off from blog world his birthday is past) and then 14 will be 15 and 15 will become 15b - I know, confusing, so perhaps I'll settle this by just referring to him as 15b.<br />
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15b is my part-time foster son - not technically because the process was halted by CCAS because we were taking too long and 15b was becoming unstable. What they were actually inferring was that 15b's acting out was ALL OUR FAULT and none of theirs and definitely <i>not</i> a product of their draconian system. They <i>do</i> want him to spend as much time as possible with us because they consider us incredibly positive influences and perhaps our involvement will be what makes him grow into one of the few success stories.<br />
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Also I think they want him to spend as much time with us as possible because it means less work for the group home and I pay for everything - a win-win for them.<br />
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So I'm the mother of 2.5 boys, the wife of a boy and the owner of a pissy male cat who spends his time bitter. And I have no ovaries.<br />
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A side note, 9 asked if I'm now a man because I have no ovaries. Thanks 9 for making me feel better - I have no ovaries and only one breast but yes, I am still the woman who gave birth to you and nursed you for 2 years and man, <i>you owe me.</i><br />
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So back to the beginning of the story.<br />
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I'm finding it really hard being the mother to only boys and in my personal history I was a tomboy, I desperately wanted to be a boy with all their freedoms: playing war, climbing trees, spending as much time in the woods as I possibly could, hanging out with boys ... in fact, I entered grade 9 wearing only denim! So why don't I get them? 15 is crass, rude, a bully to 9, annoying, lazy ... 9 is irritating, narcissitic, ego-centric, volatile, hyper-sensitive, refuses to sleep in his own room ...<br />
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... and don't get me started on the smell and broken furniture. I'll <i>never</i> stop writing!<br />
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Part of the reason I took so long to post is because I knew this not-quite-finished essay thick with self pity was waiting for me and I wasn't ready to deal with it. But after being told to get my act together and start writing, I figured after two glasses of wine, it was time.<br />
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And I know my life will swing like a 60s key party for the next few years, but I also know the boys are worth it and I love them ... even though they drive me freaking insane.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-63408743703491422032011-07-27T18:34:00.000-07:002011-07-27T18:34:44.604-07:00I'm surprised the Brothers Ford didn't quarantine us, but they probably don't know how to spell the wordCompletely wiped out - we have been hit hard by a summer flu.<br />
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First 9 was laid low but surprisingly for only a few days, he totally could have milked it for longer.<br />
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14 was hit really hard and now that food finally stays where it belongs, I'm desperately trying to get him to eat anything to pack on some of the weight he's lost this past week.<br />
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Good thing parents are used to poo and vomit, not usually from such a large source of course, because it's amazing how fast old habits return and how efficient you immediately become ... and how adept at mouth breathing.<br />
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Also helpful? That I'm still barely sleeping so tend to wander the house at night which comes in useful when sheets need to be changed and tossed in the washing machine and backs rubbed as children are found slumped over the toilet bowl.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-5840592259071559262011-07-19T12:23:00.000-07:002011-07-20T09:47:50.714-07:00I have the mouth of a fisherman's wifeIt's true ... but I blame the children. Mostly.<br />
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For explain to me why "14, I want you to empty the dishwasher and clean up the living room before I get home" in loving motherly tones doesn't work. Especially when he accepts the challenge on the phone and promises me that he will spend the not even 10 minutes making sure it gets done leaving me filled with false hope?<br />
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Instead it takes me going nuclear when I get into the house finding the kitchen a mess, the dishwasher still full, wrappers and tin cans all over the kitchen and living room, paintball gun on the sofa, electric guitar on the sofa, a pile of 25 DVDs scattered all over the floor, the sofa cushions on the floor... and the boys playing x-Box.<br />
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Then my face turns red, spins around a few times and "14 GET DOWN HERE NOW AND EMPTY THE DISHWASHER AND START CLEANING UP <span style="font-size: large;">AND WHY THE <i>FUCK</i> DO I HAVE TO SCREAM AT YOU TO GET IT DONE!"</span> comes flying out of my otherwise civilized mouth.<br />
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Oh this summer will be the end of me.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-45931133572672619632011-07-14T18:48:00.000-07:002011-07-14T18:48:31.864-07:00Summer Camp: Week 2To quickly finish up last week's program, fencing camp with the cold blooded, heartless Russian instructor (according to 9, I myself <i>loved</i> her!), by Wednesday Jakob began to embrace the camp. By Friday, he liked it. Though Russian instructor conceded that "9 is very stubborn" they won each other over and developed mutual affection. Was he transformed? I don't think so. Can I get my money back? I don't think so.<br />
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<b>Week 2: Lego camp.</b><br />
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9 LOVED it! When I picked him up at the end of each day he was happy and would even spend a few extra minutes adding wonderful touches to his giant yellow pyramid. Was he hot and sweaty by end of day? Not on your life! My nerdy little boy was in heaven. This camp would horrify the Russian fencing instructor.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-20615009298257249962011-07-06T06:55:00.000-07:002011-07-06T06:55:17.237-07:00Summer camp: Week 19 started camp this week - he's bitter.<br />
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Before summer I had 9 actively involved in choosing camps - he hated them all but some were less offensive then others so we focused on those. This week he has fencing camp. My thinking was all boys love sword fighting, it's in the neighbourhood and it's physical... perfect!<br />
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9 <strong><span style="color: #990000;">HATES</span></strong> it. <br />
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An overview of his despair:<br />
<ol><li>He's hot, sweaty and exhausted at the end of the day (9 <em>does not</em> like to physically exert himself in anyway - other than his fingers while playing xbox - or be hot)</li>
<li>His instructor is Russian and has a very Eastern European approach to teaching: no warmth and fuzziness with the kids, and is determined to transform him in the 5 days he's with her</li>
<li>Se tells him repeatedly that he is not listening and she is tired of repeating herself (he feels she must think he's brain damaged because he promises me he <em>is</em> listening to her, he's just <em>not looking</em> at her) </li>
<li>His instructor has deemed some of his snacks unhealthy (which they totally are but has husband shaking his head as he pulls the ritz bits filled with weird cheese filling back out of the lunch bag).</li>
</ol>I knew it wasn't good when I picked 9 up the first day and she came over to talk to me, specifically to say "9 is not athletic is he, he's more intellectual." Day 2 I got the "I will transform him by the end of the week!" message. <br />
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Not that I'm complaining, I quite like her and really enjoy the directness and her accent - and if she can transform 9 by exposing him to exercise ... fantastic!<br />
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But I did over hear 9 say to husband that the only reason I put him in that camp must be because <em>I don't love him.</em><br />
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Let's hope next week goes a little better - it's lego camp.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-77252387577098901972011-07-04T07:54:00.000-07:002011-07-04T07:54:16.426-07:00Wanted: one exorcistI now understand why women had children in their teens and 20s a generation or two ago because I'm surprised the combination of 14's and my hormonal upheaval hasn't set the world ablaze ... yet.<br />
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14's emotional outbursts has my head spinning so fast that I feel a little like Linda Blair from the Exorcist minus the green vomit. But it's not me that needs the exorcist, oh no... it's 14 (husband may wonder about a 2-for-1 special to deal with us both but he would be wise to keep that thinking to himself).<br />
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Some samplings:<br />
<ul><li>Husband takes a quick look at 14's yearbook left on the coffee table and the words that came out of 14's mouth would make a pirate blush.</li>
<li>Husband asks 14 if he's wearing cologne and the rage: face red, seething, eyes watering, storming into the house waxing poetically of acts of revenge. Made me pretty happy I was on the other side of the table. </li>
<li>Me innocently asking (from a safe distance of course) if 14 was okay and then explosions and swearing and finger pointing identifying us all as irritants.</li>
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I've taking to warning 9 that 14 is in a teenage mood and best to stay far away.<br />
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I have also taken to warning guests to come baring holy water and crucifixes ... you know, just to be safe.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-36366671447235388702011-06-21T17:13:00.000-07:002011-06-21T17:13:22.874-07:00Innocence lostWell, it happened. And I know I should have been preparing myself through prayer and medication but I really didn't expect it to happen this soon.<br />
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14 went to an end-of-year school party ... and when I picked him up at 11pm, he was hammered. HAMMERED! Fortunately 14 likes to tell me in great detail everything he does so he told me exactly how much he had to drink. 3 beers and lots of shooters mostly consisting of vodka. I spent the entire drive home quizzing him with "are you going to throw up?" And once home encouraged him to drink water.<br />
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The crazy thing was how many drunken teens were wobbling around the property, across the street from the property, in the middle of the road in front of the property - there were at least 50 (14 said 80) and this was a really nice house on a really nice street in a very expensive area (annex/yorkville) and the parents were supposedly home. One 14-year-old boy was vomiting on their lawn and then passed out according to 14, I may have referred to this boy as <i>freakishly tall boy</i> in previous posts ... or perhaps not.<br />
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I get the sense that the parents lost control and evicted everyone just before 11:00 and while I was waiting in my car for 14 to jump in, I assumed every car that turned the corner would carry police.<br />
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I think my shock over the permissiveness of the parents and how drunk the underage kids were, kind of overshadowed any sense of irritation towards 14. What if something had happened to the kids? Specifically the one vomiting and then passed out? Did the parents leave him outside? I'm really a bit horrified.<br />
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And to think I asked 14 if he wanted to take pop and chips to the party.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-35343737071243369142011-06-20T09:48:00.000-07:002011-06-20T09:50:26.730-07:00TransformationI had my annual MRI on Wednesday and this was one of the many irritating conversations I had with the nurse checking me in:<br />
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N: Have you had abdominal surgery in the past.<br />
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Me: Yes, I had this one procedure done years ago and this other thing done and I had my ovaries removed 5 weeks ago.<br />
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N: And when was your last period.<br />
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Me: In April.<br />
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N: Oh... and you are positive you are not pregnant?<br />
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Me: No, because I had my OVARIES REMOVED 5 WEEKS AGO.<br />
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N: Right.<br />
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It was like she had morphed into my children.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-71743009494244086482011-06-14T10:48:00.000-07:002011-06-14T10:48:43.670-07:00I'm looking for someone to slapThis is how tired I am - I nearly fell asleep while having my teeth attacked by my dental hygienist.<br />
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Except for when she had me laughing - she told me the story of a colleague's wife who was going through menopause and she would enter the kitchen each morning, hands on hip, and say<em> 'I'm looking for someone to slap'</em> and the husband and children would dart.<br />
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I just might have to incorporate that into my morning routine.<br />
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Though husband did say to me yesterday that I seem to be coping quite well without sleep.<br />
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Something else had me laughing yesterday too - while talking to a colleague about how school ending is really closing down on me, hard, like a rusty prison cell door slamming shut, I mentioned how it has been really hard finding camps that 9 would be willing to embrace. We came up with the concept of SLOTH camp which I thought was brilliant! What a money maker and all you would need is a TV, an xBox a fridge ... a few other electronic products and voila! Done! I would have chapters throughout all of North America and endless children on a waiting list. Would hardly need staff or counsellors - all I would have to do is throw food at them occasionally and keep fingers crossed that there would be no power outages.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-31053467005566070142011-06-08T13:10:00.000-07:002011-06-08T13:11:17.011-07:00Science and hot flashes40+ temperature outside + hot flashes = one very confused hot mama!<br />
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I no longer know if I'm hot because I'm in the throes of a hot flash or if it's just the damn temperature outside. Or to be honest, my blood pressure because <i>everyone is driving me insane</i>.<br />
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Random example of insanity running rampid in my house as exemplified in a dialogue between husband and teen: <br />
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Husband: 14, why is your lunch bag always covered in mud?<br />
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14: How should I know?<br />
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H: Because it's your lunch bag!<br />
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14: Dad, when is the house going to fall down?<br />
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H: What?<br />
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14: When is the house going to fall down? You should know because it's your house.<br />
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H: What does that have to do with your filthy lunch bag?<br />
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14: Because it's exactly the same thing!<br />
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I can only shake my head.<br />
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Anyway, regarding menopause (because it's much more fun talking about myself) this is how it is impacting me so far:<br />
<ul><li>I get hot flashes but so far, keeping fingers crossed, I don't break down in a massive sweat soaking bedding and clothes ... I just get hot and at night, wake up.</li>
<li>I barely sleep. It doesn't matter if I have a glass <strike>or 3</strike> of wine or I don't have a glass <strike>or 3</strike> of wine, I don't sleep.</li>
<li>I am exhausted.</li>
<li>I am a bit cranky because of exhaustion.</li>
<li>My family is a <i>little</i> nervous.</li>
<li>Last night I might have had a massive mood swing because I became insanely angry at my undeserving* family but it could also have been because I only had 2 or 3 hours of sleep the night before and they were being <i>unhelpful</i>.</li>
<li>I am very appreciative of make-up but am going through foundation and concealer at an alarming rate. </li>
</ul>Now this might have a bit to do with the fear I've inspired but 9 is being very sweet saying that I look beautiful and he loves me. If only it worked with the older ones.<br />
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* They totally deserved it.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-85057691890829852392011-05-31T09:27:00.000-07:002011-05-31T09:27:19.495-07:00Dream world ... or is it?Sorry - I've been asleep this past week ... well trying to sleep. The one department of menopause that I'm struggling with is the absolute exhaustion. Yet even though I'm drop dead tired, as soon as I go to bed, I can't sleep. Then I do sleep, then I have a hot flash, then I'm awake, then I'm asleep, then Molly licks my face, then I'm awake, then I'm hot, then I'm... <br />
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And then the alarm clock goes off.<br />
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How am I even lucid? But then maybe I'm not? But only I don't notice? <br />
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A small digression before I re-attach the IV drip of coffee to my vein: while biking to work this morning I noticed that all the garbage bins were lined up perfectly on a very long street. Like surreal 1950s-era Tim Burton movie kind of perfect. And as I biked along began to think that perhaps, just maybe, this was actually a dream and I was still asleep in bed because who on earth would walk down a long street and align all the bins like that?<br />
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Life in the house with 14 has been very annoying lately. In addition to everything being sexual, he <em>constantly</em> comes up with absolute bizarre scenarios prefaced with: Mom, what would you do if... <br />
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... if I ate my left arm<br />
... if I ate that lamp post<br />
... if I ate myself and then crapped myself out<br />
... if I broke Jakob's arm off<br />
... if the world exploded<br />
... if I was killed by a dinosaur<br />
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I'm saving you from the really horrifying ones, ones that occasionally make me very angry. Ones also that to be honest I can't remember because I'm so freaking tired.<br />
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I can only now ignore or respond with stupid comments like "I would be sad because then you wouldn't be able to play the guitar anymore" even if it's in response to what <em>would you do if I ate that lamp post</em>.<br />
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You know what sucks about being so tired and forgetting everything right now? I had a burning question that I wanted to position for feedback and now... gone, right out of my head.<br />
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Time for more coffee.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-17411588517508002392011-05-22T19:37:00.000-07:002011-05-23T08:30:17.887-07:00Just can't winYou know what sucks? Other than having no ovaries, buying your mother-in-law a necklace from TIFFANY'S and having her phone up confused, not really liking it but also thinking she actually needs to return it to Tiffany's in New York.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-20908255821911823492011-05-18T08:37:00.000-07:002011-05-18T08:37:09.505-07:00menopauseI know I've been missing in action which is not a great thing having just returned to blog world but I have a very good reason:<br />
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<i>my ovaries are gone and I kind of miss them.</i><br />
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Life has been a bit frantic - I received a call late in the afternoon on Thursday, May 5 informing me my new surgery date was Monday, May 9 at 11:00 am. After shaking my head a few dozen times I quickly lined up husband, work, friends and then sat back to try to get my mind around the idea of being launched into immediate menopause.<br />
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Surgery went off without a hitch, though they were 2 1/2 hours late bringing me in but at least I had the operation right? Unlike LAST time where I was sent home 15 minutes before the procedure was supposed to begin.<br />
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But I'm feeling a bit wiped - I describe the first week of recovery feeling like I had survived a gang war, having been shot, stabbed and beaten. One thing I didn't expect was being pumped full of gas and the resulting pain in my shoulders was ridiculous - I think the oxycodone was used more to manage that pain rather than the abdominal pain.<br />
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If you're all curious about my menopausal symptoms, even if it's to measure how wise it is to be in my company (note: I have NOT hurt husband or children ... yet. I did come close to throwing a green plastic toy at husband's head but I did NOT. I have keen self control.) I'm finding night time the hardest. I am having hot flashes but haven't broken out in sweats, I'll wake up for whatever reason (hot, cats, pain, <i>husband snoring</i>) and once awake, am awake for a very long time so feel like I walk around in a permanent state of exhaustion. Mood swings are not bad though I did yell at a driver for being incapable of making an expedient right hand turn, that it's not brain surgery, but that's acceptable ... I mean they have to learn, right? And I did have a <i>mild discussion</i> with husband on the same drive about the flipping heat in the car and was he trying to kill me?<br />
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I'm still waiting to hear from my oncologist to see if I can use an estrogen patch to manage symptoms but he's not <strike>freaking</strike> getting back to me.<br />
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Should make for interesting blog writing as I work through the mood swings - I'll make sure I use these prime times to write.<br />
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Wish us luck!Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-6392342175385507902011-05-04T08:56:00.000-07:002011-05-04T08:56:36.878-07:00Identity crisisI have been <strike>trapped at</strike> home with a very sick child since Easter. <br />
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Poor 9, it's been a rough week. Started Easter Sunday with a slight sore throat - I ignored him as any mother would convinced it was caused by all the chocolate he had eaten. By Monday it was really bad and then for the rest of the week the symptoms kept changing - from sore throat to stomach to fever to head cold...<br />
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Damn Easter bunny.<br />
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Friday I returned him to school with the gentle reminder to <strong>CONTACT HIS FATHER</strong> <em>for any reason</em> but when I picked him up at the end of the day he was crying. His ears hurt. <br />
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WHY ME!? I screamed at the heavens. I have a new blog to update! I have spent the past week blowing off special events, working from home, catering to 9's every whim, the list is endless.<br />
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So last weekend was a bit of a bust too. <br />
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9 <em>has</em> been at school this week but has also been telling his friends and teachers that he's been living on pain medication since Easter, the little pill-popping junkie that he is.<br />
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Yesterday I kind of lost it, he tore his finger nail and announced that ONCE AGAIN, he would need to stay home for the rest of the week to recover. <br />
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I'm changing 9's name to Mildred.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694368428475357471.post-85604741554394834462011-04-24T09:29:00.000-07:002011-04-24T09:29:30.611-07:00The Easter checklistEaster basket stuffed with goodies for three boys - check.<br />
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Easter egg hunt for crazy amounts of chocolate and plastic eggs stuffed with jellybeans - done.<br />
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Easter bunny myth destroyed for 9? Yep! <br />
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Peeling strung-out-on-sugar children off ceiling? Just looking for the stepladder.Mother of boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17227726929599581087noreply@blogger.com0